Negative emotions can drain you of your energy because you invest that energy into the negative feelings that are pulling you down. Meaning, you’re not down because someone put you down, or because you were born like this, you are down because you focus on the emotions that put you down.
The trick is not to never have negative emotions. That’s not real. The trick is to use the emotions, positive and negative, as cues to take action. Emotions are calls to action. How you feel will make or break your life.
Those painful emotions can be our best friends. They are sending us signals that what’s happening is wrong and that we need to make a change.
If you don’t listen to emotions, they will find a way to make you listen, they’ll erupt, and get more and more intense. The best way to deal with emotions is then to learn from and use them!
You make your day. If you work for someone, you make your day by letting someone else telling you how to make your day. You can see this as either helping somebody achieve their dreams and getting rewarded by doing so, enjoying the process along the way.
Or you can see it as another hard day’s work, hating to even think about it, dragging your ass every day to the office, and dreaming of what you’ll do during the weekend, which you eventually spend doing errands and trying to relax.
Who chose the job you currently have? And why did you choose that particular job? If you hate it, you are burying the greatness you have in yourself. When you have a hard day, every day, you drain your power. When you’re depleted, you can’t share your unique talent, your beautiful gift with the world. And that’s what makes having bad days, every day, wrong.
Make your day the one you set out to be, and let the greatness grow from within. There’s nothing wrong with working for someone else, but it’s wrong to do it if it drains your power every single day.
While living your life in your comfort zone feels safe and prudent, it is equally important to push yourself out of it, into your courage zone. It means you need to stop taking the easiest choice offered to you, and try something you’re a little uncomfortable doing, something that’s a bit scary. If you don’t, you’ll stagnate and wither.
On the other hand, if you try to live your life only in the courage zone, you’ll eventually feel so overwhelmed, you’ll end up in the terror zone. In this zone, you’ll burn out, be stressed out of your mind and continually worry.
You need to find balance between the comfort zone and the courage zone to grow your potential, your unique talent, and share your gift with the world.
You’ll see a pretty drastic change in my appearance tomorrow as the update goes live on the site. I had to have a hair cut before leaving for my motorcycle vacation… Why you ask?
In November of 2017, I got a Mirena IUD inserted. That’s an intrauterine contraceptive device (coil) that releases levonorgestrel (synthetic progesterone).
With it came a long list of side effects, some minors, some crippling and debilitating. My doctor sold me the idea that it would be great for my PMS and that I may not menstruate any more (whoohoo!). She talked about a few of the minor side effects, stating that they were very rare. She also warned me not to Google about the Mirena because… Myths and stuff. For the first time since the advent of the Internet, I didn’t do my research.
After a month of feeling like garbage, my body rejected the IUD. That was such a relief.
Back to the hair.
One of the many, many, many, many side effects from this type of contraceptive is hair loss. I wasn’t immune to this. I decided to get a haircut because my hair was looking ridiculously thin, and with the length that they were it was getting annoying to pick up hair everywhere, all day long.
My hair is still falling out. Some days a lot more than others, but some other days, it looks normal.
Although I didn’t get the hair cut because I wanted to make a change in my looks, I kind of enjoy the low maintenance of this style. And since my hair is naturally curly, no one would guess that I’m having this little hair loss problem!
I hope you’ll enjoy the change. What’s great about it is that as my hair grow back, I’ll be experimenting with new styles which will add some uniqueness to each update!
Here’s a little “How To” to complement last week’s post about creating a better perspective of dramatic events. I find these steps can be applied to most situations, past and present, and you should start with something relatively light to ease into the practice.
First, find something that scares you just a little, not something that terrifies you. As a human being, you’ll have plenty to work your way up. Your emotional reaction of fear toward this scary thing is an sign that your perspective can be changed.
Second, go inside yourself and dig to find the positive perspective of that thing that scares you. Ask your subconscious or your Higher Power, or who or what you believe in, to help you see it differently.
Last, stay open to the answer that you will receive. This is not magic, or voodoo-woodoo, it’s just the power of your brain at work. Believe the answer is perfect and understandable. It may come into little bits and pieces, but if you pay attention, it will come to you in a way you can make sense of it.
We’re already making up our own reality, so I don’t see why we should put up with what we’re supposed to feel about tragic events. I’m not saying we should be insensitive, indifferent, or apathetic. Simply that we have the freedom to choose whether or not an experience can empower us by creating our own perspective of the event.
Tragedy, horror, and trauma are just that, they’re tragic. When the news informs you of a disastrous event or when you live one yourself, you create a perspective of the experience with your life’s baggage that will resonate with your beliefs.
When you think you know what the experience of horror was like for the people who lived it, but there’s actually no one alive to talk about it, you made it up. And that’s just fine.
Since you can make up your perspective of what happened, and how it felt like, you might be better off making up a perspective that soothes you, not one that terrifies you. Your explanation of an event is the truth. It’s your truth, and it is what you believe.
It was scary to think of posting my thoughts about everything and anything that can make us into better human beings out there in the wild. I had and still have fears.
Would my English writing be understandable? Would I make ridiculous mistakes because English is my second language? Would you dismiss my views of the world because of the “job” I do? Would I be judged and mocked for my ideas?
It’s a wonderful feeling to face fear and get over it. The more I practice facing my fears, the stronger I get at overcoming them.
Turns out you guys are pretty cool. You’re great critiques, and your opinions spark new thoughts, and help me question my beliefs. I love it and that’s a lot of fun!
Never before have we been so free, but at the same time, feeling so trapped. The technologies that give us the freedom to work from anywhere, learn anything, be in contact with people around the world, also make us work too much, get information overload, and stay hooked on social media for too long… Spending our days watching other people live their lives.
It’s a constant battle to get the right dosage of work, information, and socialization. The challenge gets ever greater as many applications are constructed to keep us scrolling and clicking (or touching).
We need to find our own tricks and hacks to use technology to our advantage, not to give ourselves away to this attention/connection economy.
The right dose can enrich our lives like never before, while the overdose is lethal to our happiness, health, and relationship.
How do you use and manage technology to enhance your life?
With Internet access, human beings have access to all the information in the world. It’s therefore interesting to consider the future of our education system.
Why pay thousands of dollars and get in debt to educate ourselves when we could learn most (most doesn’t mean all) of it on the Internet for free, or for a fraction of the price?
Maybe because nowadays, education is a business.
Maybe because certain professions are bringing to the individual a certain form of standing, ranking higher in the “better because I have a degree” ladder.
Maybe because we’re trained since we’re little boys and little girls that this is the path to success.
No matter what the reasons are, everybody can learn about any subject they want. There are online courses, YouTube videos, books, blogs, and people you can follow on social media that can show you how to do what you want to do, or learn what you want to learn.
Even with all those resources, we’re still far from being geniuses. I guess that’s because learning is changing, and changing is hard.