Disproving my Incorrect Beliefs

When I’m having a hard time making something happen, or changing a behaviour that’s not so good for me, I know it’s because of the belief I hold about it. The belief is holding me back.

I found that dragging that belief out in the open, writing it down, reading it a few times out loud, and then finding examples that disprove it can make it so much easier to get unstuck.

It’s not the situation that’s the problem, it’s my belief about it. When I change my belief, using examples of other people who are having similar challenges, but who made it through, I can accept that what I want to do or change is not easy, but possible.

Do you have incorrect beliefs that are holding you back?

Finding the One

Most people know that their partner will hardly ever change because they ask or want them to. If they don’t know yet, they soon find it out the hard way. Still, it’s astounding the number of people who say they will succeed in changing something they dislike in their partner.

When someone makes a change, it’s often with great effort, and only if he or she has strong reasons to do so. And the reason is not for you.

Wouldn’t it be easier to find someone who has less of the things you don’t want, and more of those you want? Of course, if you don’t know what you’re looking for in the first place, how can you ever find the one?

Another way to live the perfect love with the person you’re already with is to accept her the way she is. As in unconditionally. As in loving her whole being. You chose to be with this person, for better and for worst. Focus on what’s amazing in your partner, and I can guarantee your chances of staying together happy and for a long time will double.

It’s My Choice

As incredible as it may sound, when I look back on my accident, I come to a place where if given the choice to go back in time and not go through the painful experience, I wouldn’t.

Why not!?

I have learned and changed so much in a good way that it doesn’t make sense to go back just to have a perfect working leg.

The everyday pain and challenges that come with it are a constant reminder of what I left behind, and what I have become. I have chosen to use this accident as an excuse to be a better human being by showing more kindness, humility, love, and respect toward others and myself.

What’s your excuse to be a better human?

When it’s too Complicated

If I can’t seem to accomplish a goal I’ve set for myself, usually it’s because it feels too hard. And it feels this way because I’ve made the steps to the goal way too complicated, or because my reasons aren’t right.

If a step is too complicated, my mind will want to flee because the complexity is creating barriers on my path to accomplish my goal.

If my reasons aren’t right, the goal has no meaning to me, and I lose interest in it. That’s when you do something for someone else (not to be confused with doing it to get something from someone else).

Finding a good reason why and keeping it simple both help in achieving anything.

Do you over complicate things sometimes?

We’ve Been Programmed

To some extend, you and I, and pretty much everyone, have been programmed. We’re following a path that we didn’t really choose. It was chosen for us.

Your desires are not your own, they have been programmed into your mind from a young age by your parents, your teachers, your peers, the media, marketers, etc. They have created your original beliefs about the way your life should look like, and how you should behave.

The problem with this programming is that it doesn’t take in consideration the best way for each person to live their lives. It also makes you want things without thinking why you want them in the first place.

And then, you wonder why you’re unhappy, tired,  and suffering.

Questioning your beliefs might make you feel uneasy, but it’s a sure way to find the true you.


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Create Space

The best way to create space in our life is to examine what we can’t live without. There are things and people that give us joy, and they are certainly worth keeping.

Once we know what we can’t live without, we’re ready to gain freedom from stuff, consumerism, emotional blockages, things that overwhelm us, debts, negative people and thoughts, and physical and mental clutter.

Anything that doesn’t contribute to what we want to be, to want to achieve, and that we can’t live without falls into the category of nonessentials. We should strive to get rid of as much of the nonessential to create space for an extraordinary life.

Simple living, or minimalism is not just about having a home with white walls, and as few things as possible on the counter top in the kitchen. It’s about getting rid of your clutter, be it physical, mental, or emotional. What ever doesn’t bring you joy must get out of your life.

It might be quite a challenge to be yourself in a world that wants you to be like everybody else.

As we’re made to believe that the more we have, the happier we’ll be, we instead crawl under commitments, obligations, stuffs, and debts. Blame it on our genes: we’re evolutionarily programmed to hold onto stuff.

What we own makes us feel we’re less inadequate, and advertising is using this to make us think we’ll be better, and have a better lifestyle when we buy their junk.

Instead of enjoying the people and things around us, we are racing and stressed out. We spend most of our time working at jobs we don’t really like to buy stuff we don’t even really need, or worst, we don’t really want.

It’s okay to own things — that make you happy when you use them. I personally have many things that I would be sad to part with; I love riding my Enduro bike and my trials; and I love playing on either my guitars(2), piano, or ukulele. The problem is when we give too much meaning to the stuff we have, without questioning why we have it.

This summer, I sold my VStrom 650. I had just bought a used modern trial bike because I wanted to replace my old vintage Yamaha TY 175. That was the bike I wanted to sell, because who needs two trial bikes, right? I had a buyer, but at the last minute, I changed my mind because I went for a ride in the woods behind my house with the TY. I was instantly filled with joy, unlike when I was riding the VStrom. I knew I was keeping the big bike to ride with my husband, but I’m much more of an off-road rider. Tarmac isn’t my thing, so I sold the VStrom without any regrets.

Yes, sometimes we keep stuff to please other people.

And then, right before Christmas, I almost sold my piano. I figured I wasn’t playing enough. Out of the blue, I sat down and started playing. It filled me with so much joy, I started crying thinking of loosing this wonderful feeling if I sold my piano. Of course, I again changed my mind and I’m keeping the piano!

It’s not just about stuff. Recently, I have been listening to a self forgiveness session on a popular app called Calm. If you haven’t already downloaded it, I guarantee it’ll change your life.

It’s a practice of letting go. You simply recall an action or an event you’d like to forgive yourself for. You can trust that whatever comes to mind is perfect to focus on. Failure, disappointment, regret, a chance you didn’t take. We all have something we’d like to be forgiven for.

Through the guided session, you try to have self compassion towards the you who took that action, and if possible to release yourself from blame, to forgive yourself.

When I’m done, I feel like I’ve done some decluttering in my mind and my soul. I feel lighter and freer, just as if I had cleaned up the garage from some old boxes that were lying around.

Merry Christmas!

May the spirit of Christmas fill your home with peace, joy and love!

Christmas is all about spending time with your family and your friends, creating some special memories that you can remember many years later.

Although it would be awesome to feel as much sparkle, closeness and cheerfulness all year-long, we can at least pause our frantic lives for the Holidays, and take the time we need to enjoy all those wonderful feelings.

My wish for you is that you can stop and see all the things you can be grateful for in your life. And once you’ve found a few, start focusing on them for the year to come. Because that’s how you build lasting happiness.

Gratitude is the most beautiful gift you can give yourself this year for Christmas. It’s contagious, so it’s also a great gift for everyone else around you.

Take time to slow down and enjoy the simple things. I hope someone touches your heart in a special way.

Wishing you much happiness and love!

Joyeux Noël!

Chloe xxx

The Power of Your Decisions

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My experience with journaling has shown me the power of a decision. For the last 37 consecutive days, I’ve practiced writing in a journal. At first, it was hard, but at day 37, I don’t have to force myself to sit down to write anymore. On the contrary, I look forward to doing it every morning.

When I decided to keep a journal every day, I didn’t know all the good that it would bring to my life. The act of writing by itself is amazing, but the super power it gave to my confidence to act on the things I know I have to do is compounding. The more I decide, the better my decisions are. The more I decide, the less stressed I am, and the less procrastination I do. The more I decide, the happier I get.

When you decide something, and make it happen, it gives you tremendous power. Each time you follow through on your decision, you become stronger, you have more discipline, and you get a sense of self reliability. You can count on you to do the things you said you’d do!

As you start taking one small decision every day, and do it when you said you’d do it, you create momentum in your life. Procrastination becomes a thing of the past because you’ve built the muscle to beat it. You have a lot of practice and wins taking small decisions and acting on them. This makes you better able at taking on bigger and harder decisions because you know you’re going to make them happen. You’ve proven to yourself you could do it.

Here are a few examples of small decisions you can take to practice:

  • decide to say something kind to your partner/friend/family/coworker today
  • decide to go for a 5 minute walk after dinner tonight
  • decide to follow the speed limit on the way home tomorrow
  • decide to add a cup of veggies to your dinner for the next 3 days
  • decide to write 1 thing you’re grateful for every day for 7 days
  • or decide to spend only 10 minutes on Facebook today

And then just do it.

What’s one small decision you could take today and follow through?

Be Grateful and Stop Complaining

I’m sharing another experiment. The 30 day experiments, or challenges have been great at helping me get better in certain domains of my life. Although I’ve failed many times, each time I started a new one, I got a bit further, and I’ve improved on the activity I chose for the 30 day challenge, even when I didn’t complete it.

This November, I wanted to go a full 30 days without buying useless stuff. I would only buy groceries and essential personal hygiene products. This month’s experiment is kind of a continuity of the not buying useless stuff experiment because it helps being less materialistic.

I sometimes complain about the world, my situation, and I even about people… This is unproductive, a true waste of time. It’s also an energy drainer, at least for me, and most likely for the person listening at my complaints.

Time is limited. I want to use it to do and make great things, to become a better version of myself, and hopefully to change the world.

Energy levels will decrease proportionately with negative thinking and complaining. To become a better person, to change the world, and to do great things, I need that energy.

My experiment is simple: go a whole month without complaining and replace the whining with gratitude. Replacing the bad behaviour is important because a habit can’t simply be stopped, it has to be swapped with another habit.

The tricky part is to catch myself complaining.

I’ll keep you posted throughout the month. It won’t be easy, but like anything else, practice makes perfect.

Do you complain often? Do you want to take on this challenge with me? Leave a comment pledging you’re in!