Opportunities to Change

We all have freedom. We can create our own choices. We have opportunities. We decide how to feel.

When you make a choice, it creates changes in your life. The choice is often driven by a problem, or an issue you face that you need to solve. It’s still an opportunity to make a positive change in your life.

When you’re the one creating the opportunity to make a positive change, you’re using your freedom in a more liberal way. You can use your creative thinking, see the world in a different way, without the pressure of having to solve a pressing problem.

Both opportunities can be used to create new solutions. There is never a wrong way to solve a problem. Only in people’s mind is there a particular answer that they are looking for, and when you have a different way to solve the challenge, would they tell you it is wrong.

We’ve been trained to do the “right” thing all our lives. We learn how the world works, and to think in a logical, efficient way. We give away our freedom by accepting to follow the status quo, and we forget how to use our creative capabilities.

But we still can reclaim this fantastic ability. Our brain and our body can engage in responses if we let them feel emotions. Our gut is always talking to us. Some call it intuition, others speak of a “gut feeling”. Emotions never lie, and we better start listening to them.

 

Things Hidden Behind Things

I feel blessed for having learned another life lesson.

Last week, my fiancé and I visited a cottage. It was perfectly situated for all the things I enjoy doing. I could go off-road motorcycle without taking the road, go fishing, hunting, relax in nature, make a fire and grill the fish I caught in the morning, paint, take amazing photographs of the sunrise on the lake, and play guitar when the weather wouldn’t permit going outside.

It was a dream come true, and I wouldn’t even have to borrow at the bank to buy it.

My fiancé didn’t see it the same way. For him, it was another responsibility, another place to take care of, and another debt. I listened, understood, and so I decided to let it go. Strangely, it made me happy.

The lesson I learned is that Things we buy are a materialization of our emotions and our basic needs. I don’t really want a chalet, I need to get away, far from the everyday life at the house, and I want to have more time, and share more with the love of my life.

There are many other ways to fulfil my needs, and express my emotions. The desire to by Things is often a signal that a need isn’t fulfilled.

Next time I want to buy something, I’ll pause and ask what need does buying this Thing is trying to fill? Could I fill it any other way?

Do you agree?

Growing is Exciting!

I try to blog about the feelings, the challenges, and the most important things going on in my life. Because I’ve been careful to take care of me first thing in the morning by writing in my gratitude journal, reading my life’s statement, learning, training my brain and my body, and meditating, I have this wonderful feeling of excitement filling my heart and body right now.

It must serve as a lesson, one that I’ve learned through a little bit of pain. I enjoy writing these blog entries, and I think I would still write them even if no one read them, for the sake knowing what works and what doesn’t. I encourage you to do the same because your memory is the most unreliable tool you have for this kind of information.

Growing makes you feel more alive. It’s exciting, and gives you confidence and courage to explore even more. The excitement spreads in areas of your life that you wouldn’t think could be affected by the actions you’re making to help you grow.

The more I grow, the more I understand the importance of going slow and steady, with only the occasional bursts. At first, I tried to do everything on my perfect day list. It never worked. My plan now is to get the most important things –those that will help me grow the most– done first thing in the morning. I realize life gets in the way, people want my attention, and if I don’t take time for myself to improve, that moment will go by, and I’ll lose to opportunity to make a better me.

I’m excited because I’m discovering someone inside me I only suspected excited.

Because my friends, my family, but most importantly, the person I share my love with lets me be who I really am, it gives me the freedom I need to grow. Encouragement, love, and respect are the food they give me to continue…

Are you someone who gets excited to grow?

 

Optimistic, Pessimistic, Realistic

I need to be reminded of the following. 

When something is about to happen, and you have absolutely no control about it, being optimistic, pessimistic, or realistic doesn’t matter. Whether you’re happy about it, or it makes you feel totally depressed, it won’t affect that unavoidable thing that will happen.

I’m talking about things like rain, tornadoes, and the passing of time. Even if you believe throughout every single cell of your body that it’s going to be a beautiful sunny day, if it’s meant to rain, it will. You have no control on some kind of events. They are going to happen, and you can’t do a thing about it.

The best way to deal with those kind of events would be to simply let them be, let them pass, without a thought. Accept that they are.

To be careless about uncontrollable events would be such a relief. But we’re human beings, and we are affected by what we focus on. The things that our senses can perceive will always affect us.

You know it’s your attitude towards the unavoidable that can be controlled. Have to courage to change, and see the rain as being the most beautiful thing you’re experimenting at the moment instead of thinking about it as a nuisance for your little self.

Our days, our weeks, our lives are filled with rain drops and sunshines. Both can be seen as irritating hassles, but they also can be blessings.

Which side will you choose? It’s up to you…