The Most Important Thing in Your Life

Health.

I could end it there, but health is more than just eating the right diet, and exercising. It’s about healthy relationships –friends, family, love, sex– , financial health, and mental health. The body is your foundation, and you can trust the principles that work to get it or keep it healthy for the other areas.

It’s true that food is more or less 50% responsible for how you feel, that exercise (we can also say moving if the word exercise scares you) is giving you that beautiful, healthy glow, and a good night’s sleep repairs your body and makes you feel refreshed. If you do those three things right, you’re already ahead of your game with a strong base. Most people know what they need to eat, and what they need to do. It just seems that health is not the most important thing in their life. It should be. It must be. Without it, you’re just a piece of sick flesh trying to get by.

Health is also in your head. If you think of yourself as a healthy person, you’ll do healthy things. If you’re broken, but think and know you’ll heal, you’ll do things that will make you heal. If health is the most important thing in your life, everything you do, every choice you’ll make will be effortlessly healthy.

Health doesn’t cost a lost of money, it’s quite cheap in fact.

You probably already have two feet, two legs, shoes and clothes to go for a walk.

You probably can choose to go to bed to get that 7-8 hours sleep instead of numbing your brain in front of the TV.

You also can choose to eat your veggies instead of that nasty french fry.

You’re probably the master of your own thoughts; use them to construct a healthy you.

You probably have money, save it well.

You probably have one friend, nurture that relationship.

Your health should must be the most important thing in your life.

Agree or disagree? I’d like to know, maybe I’m wrong!

 

 

Goals vs Intentions

What do goals, visualization, and to-do lists have in common?

They all make us work for the end result instead of living and creating from the present moment. It’s not that they’re bad tools, on the contrary, having hopes, dreams, and actionable items in our life are beneficial.

The problem lies in that we are reaching out for our dreams instead of living them.

The reasons you want to achieve a goal always have a deeper sense than just the item on your list. You want to change a behaviour to feel better, change a thought pattern to stop feeling so bad, change a physical aspect of your body to feel sexy again, or take control of your finances to finally be free.

Goals, to-do list, and visualization are statics. By shifting to set out your intentions, you open up to possibilities that you might not have thought of, or even thought existed in the first place.

Wanting that country home may mean you long for peace, freedom, a contact with nature, and a space to welcome family and friends.

Your intention is everything. It sets your life to move you onward to where you want to end up. The clearer your intentions, the closer to your life’s purpose you’ll be.

A goal is reached in the future, it’s focused on the end-result, and our minds are having a hard time doing things now for the future (else everyone would be fit, strong, financially free, etc.). Intentions still consider the future, and the desired out-come, but it can happen right now.

And what happens when you don’t reach your goal? You feel like a failure, and give up. Or you could start using practices that are contrary to the reasons you originally set out that goal.

Good intentions keep you connected to the present moment and your future vision.

When your actions are in harmony with your thoughts, your intentions, and your expectations, you can bring anything you want in the physical world. Your goals should be set with intent.

 

Be the Scientist of Your Life

We all know it: the things we measure are the things we can improve. The best example of this is at the gym. People who go to the gym, or who have been there before, know they need to count their reps if they want to improve their strength, their mass, or lose fat. It’s a given, a big duh!.

So why aren’t we counting the things that are important in our lives. Like recording our values, how much time we spend with a loved one, or even how many compliments we gave in a day? We want more of the good things in life, but we’re not taking effective steps to make them happen.

When you count, track, record, it helps you see clearly where you spend your time and energy. It’s not so much about giving 10 compliments a day and you call it done. It’s about being aware of who you are, what you are focusing on, and improving what makes you the great person that you already are.

Once you have a basis for the things you want to show up for, it’s easy to plan and schedule time to do these important things.

Sometimes we think we’re not doing enough and not giving enough. Measuring will set to record straight and show us that the reality isn’t even close to what we thought. It’s a way to make us stop feeling guilty, remove the pressure we put on ourselves, or realize that we actually kick-ass!

Some things can’t be measured. We can’t put love, faith, or purpose into hard numbers. What we can do is measure the way we show our love, our faith, and the way we live our purpose.

Do you think it’s weird to track compliments, or love notes? What are you measuring in your life? 

Clarity

You’re talking to someone, thinking you’re being understood. The other person listens to you, thinks she gets it, but it turns out she didn’t. You get pissed because it’s always the same thing, and the other person also gets pissed because you’re pissed at her.

A common conflict scenario that could be avoided if only we had more emotional vocabulary. We’re often simply expressing a frustration that didn’t find words to be told.

We didn’t learn to describe what we’re feeling, or what our needs are because it’s too darn narcissist and egocentric. Let’s be logic, efficient, and productive, and forget what’s going on inside!

While logic has its use, when we think with our heads about our emotions, we end up feeling guilty for having these emotions. Instead, identifying our sentiment gives us clues about who we are, and what our needs and values are. It’s like the symbols on your car’s dashboard, telling you a need is or isn’t satisfied.

A rich emotional vocabulary opens up our consciousness to what’s happening in our lives. When we can name and differentiate abstract elements, we can understand how they interact, change them and act upon them. It gives us power of action.

Without vocabulary, clarity is impossible. Because we can’t name that thing inside us that’s trying to make us realize a basic need, we feel completely powerless. We don’t know what to do. So we blame someone or something. We wait for that someone to come satisfy our need, and on top of it, they must guess what would please us most, even though we don’t know ourselves.

Only when we can name our emotions and our needs can we make a clear and negotiable demand to get satisfaction. Only then can we be free because we can nourish our needs in so many different ways. We’re not blind anymore to the belief that there’s only one solution. We can start being creative in taking care of our heart.