2016 in Review

On the Blog

Earlier this year, I started sharing my thoughts about habits, challenges, and ways to be a better version of ourselves. Some of you were surprised to find this kind of writing on a porn website.

The reason I decided to share my thoughts on personal development is simply passion. I read tons of books that I find truly inspiring on the subject. And even if the book is crap, there’s always a little something I can take out of it.

I decided to stick with this blog topic because you seem to enjoy the opinion I share with you. I also believe that if we’re a better version of ourselves, we’re also better with other, and better lovers.

On the Website

This year, I started adding more pictures. Portraits, blowjob pictures, and even a few galleries where my butt was the focus.

I’ve also added more videos about anal play because, well, I love it!!

The site grew a lot too. It currently holds 315 video and photo updates. All of them were made with love, genuine passion, and are artfully explicit. I still believe in beautiful porn, and to this date, it has been my drive to continue sharing my sexual self with you.

In my Personal Life

I’ve discovered a new passion: vintage trial motorcycle. It’s highly technical, very slow paced (you think you’re going slow, you’re not slow enough), and the community is made of truly interesting and older people.

I’m getting married in 2018. I never thought I would agree, but it seems love can be a strong mean of persuasion!

Three years ago, I had a stupid accident where I shattered my left tibial plateau. I had an external fixator on for 2 weeks, had surgery to have a plate a 11 screws fix my bone, stayed in the hospital for 30 days, had another surgery to remove the plate and the screws a year and a half later, and the screws damage my knee so I developed osteoarthritis.

I live with this every day, but I can feel it’s getting better. I go to the gym, and have a special program to make my leg strong and more flexible. I eat the right food to heal, and most of all, I believe I will completely heal. It’s hard as hell, but I love a good challenge that pays off dividends!

What’s your best moment from 2016?

 

We’re Blessed

A few days ago, I’ve watched a documentary about the world’s worst prison on earth. The focus of this particular documentary was about the San Pedro prison in La Paz, Bolivia.

The country has given up completely on the inmates, and they have to get organized by themselves. They have jobs inside the community, buy or rent their accommodation, and often live with their families. Yes, there are women and children living behind the prison walls.

Since I’ve watched the documentary, I’ve been feeling immensely blessed. Every morning, I get to drink a delicious coffee, something the criminals and their family probably don’t do even morning, or at all. I feel very safe in my country. In Bolivia, if police suspects you of anything, you’re guilty until proven otherwise. Here, it’s the other way around.

I know the men in San Pedro are criminals. Their privileges of being a part of our society have been revoked. That’s fair enough to me.

Seeing what happens there made me feel so grateful for all the little things that I usually take for granted. Eating 3 tasty and healthy meals a day. Taking a warm shower every day. Brushing my teeth. Sleeping in a comfortable bed. Being free to choose what I want to do every single day.

I think we are blessed, and we don’t even recognize it. We complain, some more than others 😉

I’m not comparing myself to the inmates. Aside from being human, we don’t have much in common. I’m using their misery to realize how most people’s life are awesome, including mine.

Life is a gift. Say thank you!

Have you ever had a moment like this, when you suddenly realize how blessed you are?

If This, Then That

Back in 2003, I changed my life over, and learn PHP. I used this skill to build websites, and earn a living until something bad happened; I didn’t get paid for a big project I already had spend countless hours on. I decided it was enough. I used the skill to build my own websites, and be free of people who don’t pay.

I tell you this because many programming languages use the If/Then statement. It got me thinking that this way of conducting ourselves is being applied to real life situations. Except that we’re not aware this conditional statement is driving us.

What if we became conscious, and use the If/Then statement to create new habits?

Habits are created through a formula that goes like this: you get a signal, or cue, that triggers the desired behaviour. This desired behaviour is then rewarded.

Habit = Signal > Behaviour > Reward

The signal is the If in the If/Then statement, and the behaviour and the reward are the Then. Because the signal, the If, is what makes us do the desired behaviour, the Then, it makes sense to focus on creating strong Ifs.

There’s also the possibility to use the behaviour, or the reward, as an If. This is even better because it creates an infinite Loop of desired, rewarded behaviour that signal the next desired behaviour.

It might look like using this technique would make us behave like programs. Whether you like it or not, you’re already acting as a program. During any given day, we are 80% habit driven*, but most of those habits would need a major upgrade. Besides, I’d rather be the one taking decisions concerning the important things in my life.

Do you have a chain, or a Loop of habits that would need an upgrade?

* I don’t remember the source of this statistic, but when I do, I’ll add it as a reference that I’m not throwing numbers out in thin air for the fun of it.

Making Your Life Simpler

Making things simple in your life will give you less stress, less illness, and more time to enjoy the important things.

Clutter is a form of complexity, and you should get rid of it. The easiest way to do it is to declutter one small space at a time. Starting with a space in your house or apartment that really needs attention, then move on to the spaces in your life, and the spaces in your head. One at a time.

Since we have to eat everyday, it makes sense to look at what we put in our body and simplify that too. Preparing bigger batches saves time and energy in the long run. It also makes it simple to decide what to eat when you’re hungry. You should also consider drinking only water, tea and a little bit of coffee instead of the crap that screw up your body.

Here’s a few more things to consider to simplify your life.

  • Move everyday for at least 45 minutes. The simplest form of exercises that almost everybody can do is walking. We were designed to walk a lot. Start slow and build until you’re there.
  • Stop complaining and be grateful!
  • Don’t have debts.
  • Set up a routine for the things you have to do anyway. Perfect it until you can do it fast, and on autopilot.
  • Make a not-do-to list with the things you do, but hate and aren’t absolutely necessary.
  • Love the heck out of your friends, family, and significant other.
  • Write everything down.

When you start your journey to simplify, there’s going to be a period where things are going to get more complicated before it all gets simpler. Like this:

Chloe Morgane - Making Your Life Simpler

Hang in there!

Do you have simple tips to make life simple?