The Perfect Day

I love writing down how a perfect day would look like for me. I ask myself, “what if I didn’t have to work?” or “what if money wasn’t an issue?” or “what would a perfect day be like for me”.

Then I go ahead and start writing how a day would look like with these questions in mind.

At first, my real days didn’t look much like my dream days. But every time I do the exercise, I come closer to live my perfect day.

Some of the things I wrote a while back, and that are a reality now, were:

  • Wake-up to the sound of birds.
  • Go for a walk with my dog every morning.
  • Exercise everyday.
  • Take some time to connect with the precious people in my life and tell them how much I love them, and how important they are to me.
  • Play.

What would a perfect day look like for you? 

 

Ask Great Questions

Our mind is always chatting, and we let it drift to where ever it wants to go. It sometimes tells us shit we wouldn’t dare think of telling someone we care and love.

But we end up telling ourselves unacceptable, harmful, demeaning, destructive things without even fighting back.

It’s like this flow of thoughts that if only we could redirect, would let us have an extraordinary life.

I found a great way to direct my flow of thoughts into positive, constructive thinking.

I ask myself great questions. They start with “what” and “how”, almost never with “why”.

Here’s a few I ask on a regular basis.

  • What are you not doing, but you know you should be?
  • What feels messy or confusing, and how can you make it tidy?
  • What have you been putting off because you’re scared? (this one is my favourite!)
  • What’s the most obvious change that would benefit you?

What are great questions you ask yourself?

Make a Feint

If you have something on your mind that you want to do, dream to do, wish to do, now is the right time to do it.

I hear you. I mean, I hear your excuses in my mind. Because they’re also my excuses for not doing the things I want, dream, wish I could do.

The excuses can always be boiled down to the same obstacle. And that obstacle is fear.

You know the drill. The only way to have a full life, an extraordinary life, is to face fear by doing the things we’re afraid of doing.

Surprise your fear, make a feint, and score a goal!

What have you been putting off because you’re scared?

It Doesn’t Matter What They Think

Most people agree that it doesn’t matter what other people think of them. That’s in theory.

In reality, without realizing it, we attach importance to the opinion others have about us. Yes, you do it too… and that’s okay. For now.

What they think of us matters, but we would like the tranquility that comes from not giving them any power over us through their opinions.

Start by being conscious that what they do, how they feel, and what they think isn’t in your control. Their actions, their feelings, and their thoughts belong to them.

And then do the exercise of not taking what they do, feel, or think personally.

You’re wrong 99% of the time when you give meaning to someone’s action, or you try to guess what they’re thinking of feeling. You don’t have telepathic powers. So stop acting and talking as if you had 😉

Letting Go

There are things that you have to let go in your life because they act like poisons. It’s hard because that thing you have to let go is usually connected to intense feelings.

And the brain has a way to remind you of that thing you need to let go for your own good. It seems to pop from now where, and even though you don’t want to think about it, a subtle cue can trigger the thing to emerge from deep within.

You need to be aware of the cue that triggers your thing, and prepare something to replace it -your thing- whenever it comes up. It could be as simple as “if I start thinking about my thing, I’ll sing Brother John until it goes away”.

Letting go is going to be much easier if you remove everything that reminds you your thing. It’s a process that can take years, but the sooner you eliminate triggers, the faster you’ll let go. And when you let go, your mind is free to focus on positive things.