Chloe Morgane - Creating Space

Create Space

The best way to create space in our life is to examine what we can’t live without. There are things and people that give us joy, and they are certainly worth keeping.

Once we know what we can’t live without, we’re ready to gain freedom from stuff, consumerism, emotional blockages, things that overwhelm us, debts, negative people and thoughts, and physical and mental clutter.

Anything that doesn’t contribute to what we want to be, to want to achieve, and that we can’t live without falls into the category of nonessentials. We should strive to get rid of as much of the nonessential to create space for an extraordinary life.

Simple living, or minimalism is not just about having a home with white walls, and as few things as possible on the counter top in the kitchen. It’s about getting rid of your clutter, be it physical, mental, or emotional. What ever doesn’t bring you joy must get out of your life.

It might be quite a challenge to be yourself in a world that wants you to be like everybody else.

As we’re made to believe that the more we have, the happier we’ll be, we instead crawl under commitments, obligations, stuffs, and debts. Blame it on our genes: we’re evolutionarily programmed to hold onto stuff.

What we own makes us feel we’re less inadequate, and advertising is using this to make us think we’ll be better, and have a better lifestyle when we buy their junk.

Instead of enjoying the people and things around us, we are racing and stressed out. We spend most of our time working at jobs we don’t really like to buy stuff we don’t even really need, or worst, we don’t really want.

It’s okay to own things — that make you happy when you use them. I personally have many things that I would be sad to part with; I love riding my Enduro bike and my trials; and I love playing on either my guitars(2), piano, or ukulele. The problem is when we give too much meaning to the stuff we have, without questioning why we have it.

This summer, I sold my VStrom 650. I had just bought a used modern trial bike because I wanted to replace my old vintage Yamaha TY 175. That was the bike I wanted to sell, because who needs two trial bikes, right? I had a buyer, but at the last minute, I changed my mind because I went for a ride in the woods behind my house with the TY. I was instantly filled with joy, unlike when I was riding the VStrom. I knew I was keeping the big bike to ride with my husband, but I’m much more of an off-road rider. Tarmac isn’t my thing, so I sold the VStrom without any regrets.

Yes, sometimes we keep stuff to please other people.

And then, right before Christmas, I almost sold my piano. I figured I wasn’t playing enough. Out of the blue, I sat down and started playing. It filled me with so much joy, I started crying thinking of loosing this wonderful feeling if I sold my piano. Of course, I again changed my mind and I’m keeping the piano!

It’s not just about stuff. Recently, I have been listening to a self forgiveness session on a popular app called Calm. If you haven’t already downloaded it, I guarantee it’ll change your life.

It’s a practice of letting go. You simply recall an action or an event you’d like to forgive yourself for. You can trust that whatever comes to mind is perfect to focus on. Failure, disappointment, regret, a chance you didn’t take. We all have something we’d like to be forgiven for.

Through the guided session, you try to have self compassion towards the you who took that action, and if possible to release yourself from blame, to forgive yourself.

When I’m done, I feel like I’ve done some decluttering in my mind and my soul. I feel lighter and freer, just as if I had cleaned up the garage from some old boxes that were lying around.

6 thoughts on “Create Space”

  1. The reality of it is that I am me. I have imperfections. When I mask those imperfections by being like everyone else, then I lose my inner child and there is a hollow place left that I fill with things to numb the pain. The numbing then takes over as an obsession/addiction, and I am fucked. I must live with my imperfections and not hide them to prevent me from filling my life with stuff.

  2. Nice blog post.

    I still claim that self acceptance the way we are is key to a peaceful and happy life.

    How does one accept themselves?

    It is not by searching to improve or look for the next big idea. It is by realizing that the past is not reachable except when we hold onto memories (especially bad ones), and by realizing that there is no such thing as a future. Most predictions about so called future are just predictions based on past only and future by definition is unknown. So it makes no sense to be insecure about future that does not really exist.

    All we have is the NOW moment and in that moment anyone can accept themselves as they are.

    Then peace of mind comes by giving away things rather than holding on to items. Give away items and also shed all past memories so one can live in the present moment. Then every moment is new and every person we meet is interesting even if we knew them for a long time,

    The mind then unleashes its creative forces which results in improvements by order of magnitude.

    Finally, when we help others (not from an ego point of view that ‘I am helping’) but with a view to be happy, only then we truly accept ourselves because in helping there is no judging involved. There is no such thing as success or failure in helping.

    Anyway these are my thoughts based on what you wrote, Chloe ..

    Keep writing 🙂

    Best

  3. What an appropriate first blog of the New Year Chloe – I know for sure that I need to carry out a physical spring clean.

    However, I don’t feel as though I need to clear my head or heart with negative emotional thoughts. I always try to remain positive and even though there are times when I wonder ‘what if I had done something differently’ it’s not worth dwelling on.

    I will use your post to help me decide what to keep and what I should discard.(I’m sure you did the right thing in keeping your piano ).

    With regard to your vignette concerning less is more you mention showing your imperfections when naked. I assure you that I have yet to discover any imperfection either physically or spiritually.

    Much love

  4. I grew up poor, so acquiring things made me feel like I was a success. Then at one point, I realized that I had two houses, four cars, eight guitars… even two generators (one for each house), two sets of dishes, two sets of pots & pans and two sets of tools. Pretty much, I had two (or more) of everything. That’s when I realized that we don’t own things — things own us. I had to work extra hard to keep and maintain all those possessions. After some thinking and agonizing, I sold a house and two of the cars. I took loads of possessions to the dump, things that I once thought I had to keep. In the three years since then, I realize that I don’t miss them. Stacks of old magazines, half-started and long-ignored projects, clothes I never touched, college books I’ve kept for 40 years… I do not miss them.

    Fewer things own me today.

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