Most people know that their partner will hardly ever change because they ask or want them to. If they don’t know yet, they soon find it out the hard way. Still, it’s astounding the number of people who say they will succeed in changing something they dislike in their partner.
When someone makes a change, it’s often with great effort, and only if he or she has strong reasons to do so. And the reason is not for you.
Wouldn’t it be easier to find someone who has less of the things you don’t want, and more of those you want? Of course, if you don’t know what you’re looking for in the first place, how can you ever find the one?
Another way to live the perfect love with the person you’re already with is to accept her the way she is. As in unconditionally. As in loving her whole being. You chose to be with this person, for better and for worst. Focus on what’s amazing in your partner, and I can guarantee your chances of staying together happy and for a long time will double.