Somehow, I reached a point where I felt like I’ve stopped learning. What I mean by stop learning is that I could predict the feeling of the experiences in my life. There wasn’t any room for anything new to occur because I was seeing my life from my past experiences instead of the future. It was a dark time for me where even the things I most enjoyed doing were not bringing me joy. I knew that nothing external could take away those feelings from my past and honestly, I felt like falling into oblivion. What was the point of this life?
Somehow, through my readings, browsing of YouTube videos, and meeting with wise people, I kept bumping into the same notion. I had to unlearn who I was. Just pause here. What?
My routine, my known thoughts, and my feelings are creating the same states, from where I create the same behaviours, and so I perpetuate the same reality. If I want to change some aspects of my life, I need to think, feel, and act in different ways. Obvious, and easier said than done.
What comes out of my search to understand why it’s so hard to change, why there seem to be some dark forces at play here, I found that chemicals and hormones in the body and the brain are to blame. To put it simply, since I’ve been repeating the same pattern of feelings for so long, I have become, through my core personality, those feelings. There’s a principle in neuroscience called Hebb’s law that says “nerve cells that fire together, wire together”. My neurons have fired together in the same ways for so long that they’re organized in a pattern that sort of created my personality. It’s fascinating.
So how does one unlearn who they are to become someone new? That’s what I’m planning to learn this week! It has to do with a form of meditation. If you want to know how to unlearn to be you before my next post, you can read the book Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr Joe Dispenza. Haven’t been that excited in months! Enjoy the book if you read it 🙂