We can learn so much from people who are about to pass away. They’ve lived their lives according to certain standards, and now that they’re leaving us, they have experiences they can share. If only we would listen to them.
In here book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, Bonnie Ware addresses those things that most people do their entire lives, but end up regretting. We can learn from those mistakes, those regrets, and take steps to make sure our own lives are amazing.
#1- I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life that others expected me to live.
This is the most common regrets of the dying. They look back and see how many dreams they’ve let down to live a life that other people told them they should live. What dreams are you letting die now?
#2- I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
Work to live, don’t live to work. In a sense, the second regret is about missing time with the people you love and living amazing experiences at the expense of work. It’s also doing work we feel isn’t meaningful. In this age and time, there are no reasons work at jobs we hate, except the limits we impose on ourselves.
#3- I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
We keep our feelings to ourselves so that we keep peace with others. We’re afraid of the other person’s reaction, we fear they’re not going to respect or love us anymore if we speak our true feelings. So we keep everything inside and create turmoil inside us. A truthful and transparent conversation infused with love and compassion will almost always bring the people closer together. Everyone deserves honesty.
#4- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends and family.
We live in an amazing world where we can contact the people we love even if they’re on the other side of the planet. Taking 5 minutes and reaching out to someone we haven’t talked to in a long time is easy. By setting our intention to tell them we love, appreciate, and care about them, our 5 minute conversation might just make their day (and our own)!
#5- I wish that I’d let myself be happier.
We often don’t realize it, but happiness is a choice. Unfortunately, we often stay in old patterns, our old comfort zone (even if it’s not that comfy), but this actually sacrifices our happiness. We can choose happiness. We decide how we interpret the events of our lives.
Which one of these regrets speaks to you the most? For me, it’s #3. Love you!