Top Five Life Regrets

We can learn so much from people who are about to pass away. They’ve lived their lives according to certain standards, and now that they’re leaving us, they have experiences they can share. If only we would listen to them.

In here book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, Bonnie Ware addresses those things that most people do their entire lives, but end up regretting. We can learn from those mistakes, those regrets, and take steps to make sure our own lives are amazing.

#1- I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life that others expected me to live. 

This is the most common regrets of the dying. They look back and see how many dreams they’ve let down to live a life that other people told them they should live. What dreams are you letting die now?

#2- I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

Work to live, don’t live to work. In a sense, the second regret is about missing time with the people you love and living amazing experiences at the expense of work. It’s also doing work we feel isn’t meaningful. In this age and time, there are no reasons work at jobs we hate, except the limits we impose on ourselves. 

#3- I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.

We keep our feelings to ourselves so that we keep peace with others. We’re afraid of the other person’s reaction, we fear they’re not going to respect or love us anymore if we speak our true feelings. So we keep everything inside and create turmoil inside us. A truthful and transparent conversation infused with love and compassion will almost always bring the people closer together. Everyone deserves honesty.

#4- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends and family.

We live in an amazing world where we can contact the people we love even if they’re on the other side of the planet. Taking 5 minutes and reaching out to someone we haven’t talked to in a long time is easy. By setting our intention to tell them we love, appreciate, and care about them, our 5 minute conversation might just make their day (and our own)!

#5- I wish that I’d let myself be happier.

We often don’t realize it, but happiness is a choice. Unfortunately, we often stay in old patterns, our old comfort zone (even if it’s not that comfy), but this actually sacrifices our happiness. We can choose happiness. We decide how we interpret the events of our lives.

Which one of these regrets speaks to you the most? For me, it’s #3. Love you!

Healthy Self-Esteem

A healthy self-esteem starts with self-acceptance. It makes us feel good about ourselves independent of our faults, mistakes, and flaws. We’re less inclined to judge ourselves, and we can more easily embrace who we really are.

Self-acceptance is like unconditional love toward ourselves. This unconditional love doesn’t require that we perform and achieve to build our self-worth. We’re free from the constant pressure to “fix” ourselves, and this lets us humbly affirm our qualities and attributes. We accept all of who we are, strengths and weaknesses.

Self-acceptance liberates us from future oriented thoughts like “I’ll be happy when…”. It allows us to be satisfied with who we are now because our self-worth isn’t based on conditions.

This doesn’t mean we deny our faults and mistakes, or lose our motivation to grow and become a better version of ourselves. We’re simply accepting and loving the beautiful human being we are in the present moment independently of our flaws, weaknesses, success, or achievements.

We don’t have to wait to make a change to love ourselves, we’re already lovable as we are. What needs to change is how we view ourselves.

This change, like any other change, doesn’t happen overnight by snapping our fingers. It needs to become a part of our daily practice. Paying attention to what we say to and about ourselves in our mind and changing the words we use to describe ourselves is a good way to start our practice of self-acceptance.

 

Stop Wasting Time Complaining

This human experience is not eternal and will soon be gone. The life expectancy is approximately 72.5 years. So my friend, there is no time. There is no time to complain, to be angry, there is no time to be anxious. There is no time NOT to make today the most beautiful and amazing day we can make it. 

Because I make my day, I decide to be happy. I choose peace. I choose joy. I choose love. And the way I do this is by changing my language, whether it be the words that go through my thoughts, the written word I use, or when I talk to people. I remove all the negative words from my vocabulary. I chose to say “Well, I’ve had better days… Haha!” instead of “Today is a shitty day, everything sucks!”. If someone else complains, I repeat what she/he just said and turn it into a positive!!! 

I am here to create a life of love, peace, and freedom. I don’t have the time to be angry, frustrated, or anxious. Nothing in this world is worth loosing my peace, my joy, and my happiness over.

Reading for your Soul

I’ve always loved reading. I think it’s just fun to flip through the pages of a book, and discover the thoughts of another human being. It’s almost like mind reading, if such thing would exist. Books are like pieces of human souls printed out for the whole world to learn from them.

Through books, I’m searching for something that will sparkle a new way to live my life, how to find happiness, how to succeed, how to love more, how to grow, how to be the best person I can be.

I sometimes get so excited to read a new book. The anticipation can be so strong I can’t think of anything else until I get to start reading. And very rarely have I been disappointed. Books have always delivered, there has always been a nugget in every single book I’ve read.

Challenging the Idea of Spare Time

Everyone gets only 24 hours a day (if you get 25, please email me with the details of how you manage this feat). All the time that we’ve already assigned, we’ve already assigned. Those few minutes left each day, we think of them as spare time. If only we could have more of it.

Somehow, some people manage to find 2 to 3 hours a day to do their side line project, write a book, learn and practice new skills that are bringing them closer to their dream life.

The reason is they’ve redefined what spare time means, they’ve redefined how they spend their time during their waking hours.

When you re-prioritize what spare time means to you, you can do anything and everything you want. When you say, “this is important to me”, you will have the spare time to do it.

Treat Yourself Like a Winner

What if every day you treated yourself like a winner?

You’ve won because you got up on time this morning. You’ve won because you said something nice to someone. You’ve won because you did what you said you’d do at work, at the gym, and in the kitchen.

Treating yourself like a special person is going to make you feel like a winner. You are indeed special, the simple fact that you are alive makes you special.

Recognize that you’re a winner for all the little things you do. Soon enough those wins will add up, and you’ll start creating bigger wins more often. You’ll be living the life of a winner. People will treat you like a winner too because that’s who you’ll be.

Take a Ridiculous Action

It starts with a feeling that something is not quite right, that something is missing from your life, but you don’t really know what it is. Passion, happiness, purpose, maybe fulfillment?

And then you constantly avoid making a commitment to have happiness, success, love because… you can’t, you don’t have time, and you have the best excuses reasons in the world not to. I mean, who’s going to pay for the car, the mortgage, and the loan? Besides, you can exercise tomorrow, and start working on your scales this weekend…

If you don’t face them, all those excuses are going to define you. You will become your excuses. You’ll get so used to be them, that nothing your best friend will tell you will be able to shake them up. They’ll be rock solid.

Your challenge is to make a small notch in your excuses to create a change in your life, one you can easily build on. A small, even ridiculous action can create massive changes in your life. Passion, happiness, purpose, fulfillment, success, and love are your birth rights.

 

 

The Power of Your Emotions

Negative emotions can drain you of your energy because you invest that energy into the negative feelings that are pulling you down. Meaning, you’re not down because someone put you down, or because you were born like this, you are down because you focus on the emotions that put you down.

The trick is not to never have negative emotions. That’s not real. The trick is to use the emotions, positive and negative, as cues to take action. Emotions are calls to action. How you feel will make or break your life.

Those painful emotions can be our best friends. They are sending us signals that what’s happening is wrong and that we need to make a change.

If you don’t listen to emotions, they will find a way to make you listen, they’ll erupt, and get more and more intense. The best way to deal with emotions is then to learn from and use them!

You Make Your Day

What’s wrong with constantly having a hard day?

You make your day. If you work for someone, you make your day by letting someone else telling you how to make your day. You can see this as either helping somebody achieve their dreams and getting rewarded by doing so, enjoying the process along the way.

Or you can see it as another hard day’s work, hating to even think about it, dragging your ass every day to the office, and dreaming of what you’ll do during the weekend, which you eventually spend doing errands and trying to relax.

Who chose the job you currently have? And why did you choose that particular job? If you hate it, you are burying the greatness you have in yourself. When you have a hard day, every day, you drain your power. When you’re depleted, you can’t share your unique talent, your beautiful gift with the world. And that’s what makes having bad days, every day, wrong.

Make your day the one you set out to be, and let the greatness grow from within. There’s nothing wrong with working for someone else, but it’s wrong to do it if it drains your power every single day.

 

The Perfect Zone

While living your life in your comfort zone feels safe and prudent, it is equally important to push yourself out of it, into your courage zone. It means you need to stop taking the easiest choice offered to you, and try something you’re a little uncomfortable doing, something that’s a bit scary. If you don’t, you’ll stagnate and wither.

On the other hand, if you try to live your life only in the courage zone, you’ll eventually feel so overwhelmed, you’ll end up in the terror zone. In this zone, you’ll burn out, be stressed out of your mind and continually worry.

You need to find balance between the comfort zone and the courage zone to grow your potential, your unique talent, and share your gift with the world.