Fear vs Excitement

Fear was useful when our species lived in the wild… No need for an explanation here. Since we don’t have to fear wild animals anymore, our brain use fear way too often to kill our dreams. I found a way to trick my mind when I feel fear creeping around the corner.

To make a dream come true, I need to get out of your comfort zone, do something “dangerous” and different from my usual habits and patterns. The moment I start thinking too much about doing the dangerous thing, there are  signals sent to my brain telling it that it needs to protect me. That’s when fear kicks in.

When I’m afraid, I experience the same sensations as when I’m excited, and so do you. The only difference is what’s going on in my mind. This is great news  because if I can become mindful when the symptoms are overwhelming my body, I can tell my brain that I’m excited, not fearful, and use the extra energy from the excitement to propel myself, and accomplish what I need to do to make my dream come true.

You can try it too!

How to Create Habits

Changing is hard, so is creating new and good habits. That’s why I enjoy reading about  and learning from behavioural science. It’s constantly evolving, and I love tweaking the science to my personal situation.

There’s an easy formula to create habits which goes like this:

Habit = Cue -> Behaviour -> Reward

The formula works, but it’s missing a few ingredients that can increase its effectiveness.

Repetition. The more you repeat the behaviour, the higher the chance for it to become a sticky habit.

Perceived benefits. The more pleasure or the less pain you get from the behaviour, the better.

Focus. Don’t lose sight of it, or the old behaviour will come back through your old neural pathways.

Persistence. No one knows how long it takes to form a habit. There are myths that states it takes 21 days, others say it’s 6 months. Who cares? Just do it until it sticks.

I prefer crafting my own routines and habits than letting others and circumstances decide for me. I have limited time, and since habits are part of the flow, it makes sense to craft the best one for me and my dream life.


Why is Change so Hard

Even if growing is one of my core values, using and applying the information from all the books, articles, and blogs that I read is always a challenge. I wonder why I resist that change, although I know and I want to make it.

I found there are valid reasons for this.

First, there’s this gap between now me and future me. This gap is often overwhelming. The work I’ll have to do to close the gap feels insurmountable. That’s because I’m focusing on the amount of work I’ll have to do instead of the things I can do now, in this moment.

Second, as Seth Godin said: “learning something new will change you into someone who disagrees with the person you used to be”. Again, my mind would be focusing on my future me who would believe something different from my now me. 

What’s your way of doing the hard changes you need to become who you want to be?


Disproving my Incorrect Beliefs

When I’m having a hard time making something happen, or changing a behaviour that’s not so good for me, I know it’s because of the belief I hold about it. The belief is holding me back.

I found that dragging that belief out in the open, writing it down, reading it a few times out loud, and then finding examples that disprove it can make it so much easier to get unstuck.

It’s not the situation that’s the problem, it’s my belief about it. When I change my belief, using examples of other people who are having similar challenges, but who made it through, I can accept that what I want to do or change is not easy, but possible.

Do you have incorrect beliefs that are holding you back?

Finding the One

Most people know that their partner will hardly ever change because they ask or want them to. If they don’t know yet, they soon find it out the hard way. Still, it’s astounding the number of people who say they will succeed in changing something they dislike in their partner.

When someone makes a change, it’s often with great effort, and only if he or she has strong reasons to do so. And the reason is not for you.

Wouldn’t it be easier to find someone who has less of the things you don’t want, and more of those you want? Of course, if you don’t know what you’re looking for in the first place, how can you ever find the one?

Another way to live the perfect love with the person you’re already with is to accept her the way she is. As in unconditionally. As in loving her whole being. You chose to be with this person, for better and for worst. Focus on what’s amazing in your partner, and I can guarantee your chances of staying together happy and for a long time will double.

It’s My Choice

As incredible as it may sound, when I look back on my accident, I come to a place where if given the choice to go back in time and not go through the painful experience, I wouldn’t.

Why not!?

I have learned and changed so much in a good way that it doesn’t make sense to go back just to have a perfect working leg.

The everyday pain and challenges that come with it are a constant reminder of what I left behind, and what I have become. I have chosen to use this accident as an excuse to be a better human being by showing more kindness, humility, love, and respect toward others and myself.

What’s your excuse to be a better human?

When it’s too Complicated

If I can’t seem to accomplish a goal I’ve set for myself, usually it’s because it feels too hard. And it feels this way because I’ve made the steps to the goal way too complicated, or because my reasons aren’t right.

If a step is too complicated, my mind will want to flee because the complexity is creating barriers on my path to accomplish my goal.

If my reasons aren’t right, the goal has no meaning to me, and I lose interest in it. That’s when you do something for someone else (not to be confused with doing it to get something from someone else).

Finding a good reason why and keeping it simple both help in achieving anything.

Do you over complicate things sometimes?

We’ve Been Programmed

To some extend, you and I, and pretty much everyone, have been programmed. We’re following a path that we didn’t really choose. It was chosen for us.

Your desires are not your own, they have been programmed into your mind from a young age by your parents, your teachers, your peers, the media, marketers, etc. They have created your original beliefs about the way your life should look like, and how you should behave.

The problem with this programming is that it doesn’t take in consideration the best way for each person to live their lives. It also makes you want things without thinking why you want them in the first place.

And then, you wonder why you’re unhappy, tired,  and suffering.

Questioning your beliefs might make you feel uneasy, but it’s a sure way to find the true you.

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The Power of Your Decisions

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My experience with journaling has shown me the power of a decision. For the last 37 consecutive days, I’ve practiced writing in a journal. At first, it was hard, but at day 37, I don’t have to force myself to sit down to write anymore. On the contrary, I look forward to doing it every morning.

When I decided to keep a journal every day, I didn’t know all the good that it would bring to my life. The act of writing by itself is amazing, but the super power it gave to my confidence to act on the things I know I have to do is compounding. The more I decide, the better my decisions are. The more I decide, the less stressed I am, and the less procrastination I do. The more I decide, the happier I get.

When you decide something, and make it happen, it gives you tremendous power. Each time you follow through on your decision, you become stronger, you have more discipline, and you get a sense of self reliability. You can count on you to do the things you said you’d do!

As you start taking one small decision every day, and do it when you said you’d do it, you create momentum in your life. Procrastination becomes a thing of the past because you’ve built the muscle to beat it. You have a lot of practice and wins taking small decisions and acting on them. This makes you better able at taking on bigger and harder decisions because you know you’re going to make them happen. You’ve proven to yourself you could do it.

Here are a few examples of small decisions you can take to practice:

  • decide to say something kind to your partner/friend/family/coworker today
  • decide to go for a 5 minute walk after dinner tonight
  • decide to follow the speed limit on the way home tomorrow
  • decide to add a cup of veggies to your dinner for the next 3 days
  • decide to write 1 thing you’re grateful for every day for 7 days
  • or decide to spend only 10 minutes on Facebook today

And then just do it.

What’s one small decision you could take today and follow through?

Be Crystal Clean About What you Want

Many of us want some changes in our lives. We want more freedom, better relationships, and we want to contribute to this world. And that’s the problem, and the reason nothing will change; we’re too vague.

Have you ever seen a child write a letter to Santa like this one?

Dear Santa,

For Christmas, I want toys.

Thank you!
Little Bobby

The reason you need to know exactly what you want is that your brain will start working when it knows exactly what it is that you really want. If you don’t get what you want, you’ll be disappointed, frustrated, and unhappy, which is a good thing.

How can being disappointed, frustrated, and unhappy be a good thing?

Because you need drive to move toward your goal. You need to know it’s going to be painful if you don’t get there. To avoid the pain, your brain will figure out a way to give you what you’re after because it wants the pleasure from successfully getting what you want, and because it wants, at all cost, to avoid the pain from not getting it.

The next time you set a goal for yourself, make sure that:

  1. you set only 1-3 positive goals at a time to avoid goals competing against each other;
  2. you break-down long-term goals into small bites that can be achieved in 12 weeks or less;
  3. your goals are crystal clear, so that you don’t end up with a Barbie while you wanted a Tonka loader (true story bro);
  4. you work on your goal and follow-up every single day to create momentum, and see progress;
  5. you have strong reasons why you want what you want;
  6. you know what it will cost you (pain) if you don’t make it happen.


Knowing what you don’t want isn’t going to help you. That’s why you have to set a positive goal. If you know what you don’t want for dinner, how is that going to help you eat tonight? 


Update on the Useless Stuff challenge.

This week, I bought a book for 0$. I would not have bought it this month if I’d had to pay for it.

In the context of my useless stuff challenge, I am wondering if this would count as a fail. Although the book didn’t cost me money, I have succumbed to consuming something.

Next time, I’ll make my rules clearer about what counts as a fail.

What do you think? Did I fail or not?