With Internet access, human beings have access to all the information in the world. It’s therefore interesting to consider the future of our education system.

Why pay thousands of dollars and get in debt to educate ourselves when we could learn most (most doesn’t mean all) of it on the Internet for free, or for a fraction of the price?

Maybe because nowadays, education is a business.

Maybe because certain professions are bringing to the individual a certain form of standing, ranking higher in the “better because I have a degree” ladder.

Maybe because we’re trained since we’re little boys and little girls that this is the path to success.

No matter what the reasons are, everybody can learn about any subject they want. There are online courses, YouTube videos, books, blogs, and people you can follow on social media that can show you how to do what you want to do, or learn what you want to learn.

Even with all those resources, we’re still far from being geniuses. I guess that’s because learning is changing, and changing is hard.

Fear vs Excitement

Fear was useful when our species lived in the wild… No need for an explanation here. Since we don’t have to fear wild animals anymore, our brain use fear way too often to kill our dreams. I found a way to trick my mind when I feel fear creeping around the corner.

To make a dream come true, I need to get out of your comfort zone, do something “dangerous” and different from my usual habits and patterns. The moment I start thinking too much about doing the dangerous thing, there are  signals sent to my brain telling it that it needs to protect me. That’s when fear kicks in.

When I’m afraid, I experience the same sensations as when I’m excited, and so do you. The only difference is what’s going on in my mind. This is great news  because if I can become mindful when the symptoms are overwhelming my body, I can tell my brain that I’m excited, not fearful, and use the extra energy from the excitement to propel myself, and accomplish what I need to do to make my dream come true.

You can try it too!

How to Create Habits

Changing is hard, so is creating new and good habits. That’s why I enjoy reading about  and learning from behavioural science. It’s constantly evolving, and I love tweaking the science to my personal situation.

There’s an easy formula to create habits which goes like this:

Habit = Cue -> Behaviour -> Reward

The formula works, but it’s missing a few ingredients that can increase its effectiveness.

Repetition. The more you repeat the behaviour, the higher the chance for it to become a sticky habit.

Perceived benefits. The more pleasure or the less pain you get from the behaviour, the better.

Focus. Don’t lose sight of it, or the old behaviour will come back through your old neural pathways.

Persistence. No one knows how long it takes to form a habit. There are myths that states it takes 21 days, others say it’s 6 months. Who cares? Just do it until it sticks.

I prefer crafting my own routines and habits than letting others and circumstances decide for me. I have limited time, and since habits are part of the flow, it makes sense to craft the best one for me and my dream life.


Why is Change so Hard

Even if growing is one of my core values, using and applying the information from all the books, articles, and blogs that I read is always a challenge. I wonder why I resist that change, although I know and I want to make it.

I found there are valid reasons for this.

First, there’s this gap between now me and future me. This gap is often overwhelming. The work I’ll have to do to close the gap feels insurmountable. That’s because I’m focusing on the amount of work I’ll have to do instead of the things I can do now, in this moment.

Second, as Seth Godin said: “learning something new will change you into someone who disagrees with the person you used to be”. Again, my mind would be focusing on my future me who would believe something different from my now me. 

What’s your way of doing the hard changes you need to become who you want to be?


Disproving my Incorrect Beliefs

When I’m having a hard time making something happen, or changing a behaviour that’s not so good for me, I know it’s because of the belief I hold about it. The belief is holding me back.

I found that dragging that belief out in the open, writing it down, reading it a few times out loud, and then finding examples that disprove it can make it so much easier to get unstuck.

It’s not the situation that’s the problem, it’s my belief about it. When I change my belief, using examples of other people who are having similar challenges, but who made it through, I can accept that what I want to do or change is not easy, but possible.

Do you have incorrect beliefs that are holding you back?

Finding the One

Most people know that their partner will hardly ever change because they ask or want them to. If they don’t know yet, they soon find it out the hard way. Still, it’s astounding the number of people who say they will succeed in changing something they dislike in their partner.

When someone makes a change, it’s often with great effort, and only if he or she has strong reasons to do so. And the reason is not for you.

Wouldn’t it be easier to find someone who has less of the things you don’t want, and more of those you want? Of course, if you don’t know what you’re looking for in the first place, how can you ever find the one?

Another way to live the perfect love with the person you’re already with is to accept her the way she is. As in unconditionally. As in loving her whole being. You chose to be with this person, for better and for worst. Focus on what’s amazing in your partner, and I can guarantee your chances of staying together happy and for a long time will double.

It’s My Choice

As incredible as it may sound, when I look back on my accident, I come to a place where if given the choice to go back in time and not go through the painful experience, I wouldn’t.

Why not!?

I have learned and changed so much in a good way that it doesn’t make sense to go back just to have a perfect working leg.

The everyday pain and challenges that come with it are a constant reminder of what I left behind, and what I have become. I have chosen to use this accident as an excuse to be a better human being by showing more kindness, humility, love, and respect toward others and myself.

What’s your excuse to be a better human?

When it’s too Complicated

If I can’t seem to accomplish a goal I’ve set for myself, usually it’s because it feels too hard. And it feels this way because I’ve made the steps to the goal way too complicated, or because my reasons aren’t right.

If a step is too complicated, my mind will want to flee because the complexity is creating barriers on my path to accomplish my goal.

If my reasons aren’t right, the goal has no meaning to me, and I lose interest in it. That’s when you do something for someone else (not to be confused with doing it to get something from someone else).

Finding a good reason why and keeping it simple both help in achieving anything.

Do you over complicate things sometimes?

We’ve Been Programmed

To some extend, you and I, and pretty much everyone, have been programmed. We’re following a path that we didn’t really choose. It was chosen for us.

Your desires are not your own, they have been programmed into your mind from a young age by your parents, your teachers, your peers, the media, marketers, etc. They have created your original beliefs about the way your life should look like, and how you should behave.

The problem with this programming is that it doesn’t take in consideration the best way for each person to live their lives. It also makes you want things without thinking why you want them in the first place.

And then, you wonder why you’re unhappy, tired,  and suffering.

Questioning your beliefs might make you feel uneasy, but it’s a sure way to find the true you.

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Create Space

The best way to create space in our life is to examine what we can’t live without. There are things and people that give us joy, and they are certainly worth keeping.

Once we know what we can’t live without, we’re ready to gain freedom from stuff, consumerism, emotional blockages, things that overwhelm us, debts, negative people and thoughts, and physical and mental clutter.

Anything that doesn’t contribute to what we want to be, to want to achieve, and that we can’t live without falls into the category of nonessentials. We should strive to get rid of as much of the nonessential to create space for an extraordinary life.

Simple living, or minimalism is not just about having a home with white walls, and as few things as possible on the counter top in the kitchen. It’s about getting rid of your clutter, be it physical, mental, or emotional. What ever doesn’t bring you joy must get out of your life.

It might be quite a challenge to be yourself in a world that wants you to be like everybody else.

As we’re made to believe that the more we have, the happier we’ll be, we instead crawl under commitments, obligations, stuffs, and debts. Blame it on our genes: we’re evolutionarily programmed to hold onto stuff.

What we own makes us feel we’re less inadequate, and advertising is using this to make us think we’ll be better, and have a better lifestyle when we buy their junk.

Instead of enjoying the people and things around us, we are racing and stressed out. We spend most of our time working at jobs we don’t really like to buy stuff we don’t even really need, or worst, we don’t really want.

It’s okay to own things — that make you happy when you use them. I personally have many things that I would be sad to part with; I love riding my Enduro bike and my trials; and I love playing on either my guitars(2), piano, or ukulele. The problem is when we give too much meaning to the stuff we have, without questioning why we have it.

This summer, I sold my VStrom 650. I had just bought a used modern trial bike because I wanted to replace my old vintage Yamaha TY 175. That was the bike I wanted to sell, because who needs two trial bikes, right? I had a buyer, but at the last minute, I changed my mind because I went for a ride in the woods behind my house with the TY. I was instantly filled with joy, unlike when I was riding the VStrom. I knew I was keeping the big bike to ride with my husband, but I’m much more of an off-road rider. Tarmac isn’t my thing, so I sold the VStrom without any regrets.

Yes, sometimes we keep stuff to please other people.

And then, right before Christmas, I almost sold my piano. I figured I wasn’t playing enough. Out of the blue, I sat down and started playing. It filled me with so much joy, I started crying thinking of loosing this wonderful feeling if I sold my piano. Of course, I again changed my mind and I’m keeping the piano!

It’s not just about stuff. Recently, I have been listening to a self forgiveness session on a popular app called Calm. If you haven’t already downloaded it, I guarantee it’ll change your life.

It’s a practice of letting go. You simply recall an action or an event you’d like to forgive yourself for. You can trust that whatever comes to mind is perfect to focus on. Failure, disappointment, regret, a chance you didn’t take. We all have something we’d like to be forgiven for.

Through the guided session, you try to have self compassion towards the you who took that action, and if possible to release yourself from blame, to forgive yourself.

When I’m done, I feel like I’ve done some decluttering in my mind and my soul. I feel lighter and freer, just as if I had cleaned up the garage from some old boxes that were lying around.