Treat Yourself Like a Winner

What if every day you treated yourself like a winner?

You’ve won because you got up on time this morning. You’ve won because you said something nice to someone. You’ve won because you did what you said you’d do at work, at the gym, and in the kitchen.

Treating yourself like a special person is going to make you feel like a winner. You are indeed special, the simple fact that you are alive makes you special.

Recognize that you’re a winner for all the little things you do. Soon enough those wins will add up, and you’ll start creating bigger wins more often. You’ll be living the life of a winner. People will treat you like a winner too because that’s who you’ll be.

Take a Ridiculous Action

It starts with a feeling that something is not quite right, that something is missing from your life, but you don’t really know what it is. Passion, happiness, purpose, maybe fulfillment?

And then you constantly avoid making a commitment to have happiness, success, love because… you can’t, you don’t have time, and you have the best excuses reasons in the world not to. I mean, who’s going to pay for the car, the mortgage, and the loan? Besides, you can exercise tomorrow, and start working on your scales this weekend…

If you don’t face them, all those excuses are going to define you. You will become your excuses. You’ll get so used to be them, that nothing your best friend will tell you will be able to shake them up. They’ll be rock solid.

Your challenge is to make a small notch in your excuses to create a change in your life, one you can easily build on. A small, even ridiculous action can create massive changes in your life. Passion, happiness, purpose, fulfillment, success, and love are your birth rights.

 

 

The Power of Your Emotions

Negative emotions can drain you of your energy because you invest that energy into the negative feelings that are pulling you down. Meaning, you’re not down because someone put you down, or because you were born like this, you are down because you focus on the emotions that put you down.

The trick is not to never have negative emotions. That’s not real. The trick is to use the emotions, positive and negative, as cues to take action. Emotions are calls to action. How you feel will make or break your life.

Those painful emotions can be our best friends. They are sending us signals that what’s happening is wrong and that we need to make a change.

If you don’t listen to emotions, they will find a way to make you listen, they’ll erupt, and get more and more intense. The best way to deal with emotions is then to learn from and use them!

You Make Your Day

What’s wrong with constantly having a hard day?

You make your day. If you work for someone, you make your day by letting someone else telling you how to make your day. You can see this as either helping somebody achieve their dreams and getting rewarded by doing so, enjoying the process along the way.

Or you can see it as another hard day’s work, hating to even think about it, dragging your ass every day to the office, and dreaming of what you’ll do during the weekend, which you eventually spend doing errands and trying to relax.

Who chose the job you currently have? And why did you choose that particular job? If you hate it, you are burying the greatness you have in yourself. When you have a hard day, every day, you drain your power. When you’re depleted, you can’t share your unique talent, your beautiful gift with the world. And that’s what makes having bad days, every day, wrong.

Make your day the one you set out to be, and let the greatness grow from within. There’s nothing wrong with working for someone else, but it’s wrong to do it if it drains your power every single day.

 

The Perfect Zone

While living your life in your comfort zone feels safe and prudent, it is equally important to push yourself out of it, into your courage zone. It means you need to stop taking the easiest choice offered to you, and try something you’re a little uncomfortable doing, something that’s a bit scary. If you don’t, you’ll stagnate and wither.

On the other hand, if you try to live your life only in the courage zone, you’ll eventually feel so overwhelmed, you’ll end up in the terror zone. In this zone, you’ll burn out, be stressed out of your mind and continually worry.

You need to find balance between the comfort zone and the courage zone to grow your potential, your unique talent, and share your gift with the world.

What is Freedom?

It’s hard to come up with one definition of freedom because it differs from person to person. However, we can kind of categorize types of freedom.

There’s political freedom. It underlies all our actions: writing what we want, believing what we want, and saying what we want.

There’s social freedom. That’s living our lives, and having relationships with who we want.

There’s financial freedom. You are free to make as much money, or as little as you want. Yes, you are. And you are free to use your money the way you choose to.

There’s the freedom of the mind. Being free of fears and our ego. Letting the mind develop to its full potential.

And then there’s the freedom of the spirit. This is love in its purest form. It’s the understanding that we’re all connected.

What are other types of freedom?

Why I Had to Cut my Hair

You’ll see a pretty drastic change in my appearance tomorrow as the update goes live on the site. I had to have a hair cut before leaving for my motorcycle vacation… Why you ask?

In November of 2017, I got a Mirena IUD inserted. That’s an intrauterine contraceptive device (coil) that releases levonorgestrel (synthetic progesterone). 

With it came a long list of side effects, some minors, some crippling and debilitating. My doctor sold me the idea that it would be great for my PMS and that I may not menstruate any more (whoohoo!). She talked about a few of the minor side effects, stating that they were very rare. She also warned me not to Google about the Mirena because… Myths and stuff. For the first time since the advent of the Internet, I didn’t do my research.

After a month of feeling like garbage, my body rejected the IUD. That was such a relief.

Chloe Morgane - New Haircut

Back to the hair.

One of the many, many, many, many side effects from this type of contraceptive is hair loss. I wasn’t immune to this. I decided to get a haircut because my hair was looking ridiculously thin, and with the length that they were it was getting annoying to pick up hair everywhere, all day long.

My hair is still falling out. Some days a lot more than others, but some other days, it looks normal.

Chloe Morgane - Short Red Hair

Although I didn’t get the hair cut because I wanted to make a change in my looks, I kind of enjoy the low maintenance of this style. And since my hair is naturally curly, no one would guess that I’m having this little hair loss problem!

I hope you’ll enjoy the change. What’s great about it is that as my hair grow back, I’ll be experimenting with new styles which will add some uniqueness to each update!

Reset Your Perspective

Here’s a little “How To” to complement last week’s post about creating a better perspective of dramatic events. I find these steps can be applied to most situations, past and present, and you should start with something relatively light to ease into the practice.

First, find something that scares you just a little, not something that terrifies you. As a human being, you’ll have plenty to work your way up. Your emotional reaction of fear toward this scary thing is an sign that your perspective can be changed.

Second, go inside yourself and dig to find the positive perspective of that thing that scares you. Ask your subconscious or your Higher Power, or who or what you believe in, to help you see it differently.

Last, stay open to the answer that you will receive. This is not magic, or voodoo-woodoo, it’s just the power of your brain at work. Believe the answer is perfect and understandable. It may come into little bits and pieces, but if you pay attention, it will come to you in a way you can make sense of it.

We’re already making up our own reality, so I don’t see why we should put up with what we’re supposed to feel about tragic events. I’m not saying we should be insensitive, indifferent, or apathetic. Simply that we have the freedom to choose whether or not an experience can empower us by creating our own perspective of the event.

Crazy? Not crazy? What’s your view?

Create a Better Perspective

Tragedy, horror, and trauma are just that, they’re tragic. When the news informs you of a disastrous event or when you live one yourself, you create a perspective of the experience with your life’s baggage that will resonate with your beliefs.

When you think you know what the experience of horror was like for the people who lived it, but there’s actually no one alive to talk about it, you made it up. And that’s just fine.

Since you can make up your perspective of what happened, and how it felt like, you might be better off making up a perspective that soothes you, not one that terrifies you. Your explanation of an event is the truth. It’s your truth, and it is what you believe.

 

Practice Overcoming Fear

It was scary to think of posting my thoughts about everything and anything that can make us into better human beings out there in the wild. I had and still have fears.

Would my English writing be understandable? Would I make ridiculous mistakes because English is my second language? Would you dismiss my views of the world because of the “job” I do? Would I be judged and mocked for my ideas?

It’s a wonderful feeling to face fear and get over it. The more I practice facing my fears, the stronger I get at overcoming them.

Turns out you guys are pretty cool. You’re great critiques, and your opinions spark new thoughts, and help me question my beliefs. I love it and that’s a lot of fun!

Thank you!

P.S.: Today is my birthday, I’m turning 43!