It can be daunting to doubt your own thoughts and decisions, and other people’s actions and ideas. To doubt means to have feeling of uncertainty about the truth, reality, or nature of something. Even when that something is proven by facts, science, and unfaulted logic.

When you chronically doubt yourself, you create a loop of low self-confidence that leads to more self-doubt. When you lack confidence in your own decision, it’s because you are afraid of making a mistake.

A great way to combat self-doubt is to experience the very thing you’re doubting. It’s in no case a quick fix, will surely take some time and efforts, and there will be plenty of challenges along the way because doubt is perceived as some kind of safety. You’ll have to remind yourself that it is okay to make mistakes because you’ll learn from them, and grow because you’ll have survive the experience.

The more experiences you create to battle your self-doubts, the more confidence you’ll build, which will also create a loop, a positive one that is.

In short, self-doubt is another fancy word for fear, and the only way to fight fear is to have the courage to face it.


Being Selfish and the Serenity Prayer

I feel I’ve been so selfish all those years. Learning all those meaningful, life changing things, and not sharing them with you for fear of being labeled as bizarre. I am bizarre, and so are you. Now that we’re even, I will share one of the meaningful, life changing habits that I have.

It’s not sexy, it’s not classy, it’s not even complicated, but it’s extremely powerful.

It’s the Serenity Prayer, which goes like this:

God*, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

I have a pink post-it on a cupboard door in my bathroom. Every time I go brush my teeth and floss, I read it in my head. Every time I wash my hands after doing what we do in the bathroom, I read it in my head.

Sometimes, it’s just words on a post-it, without direct, related meaning in my life, but other times, it takes on a strong meaning because I’m going through things I would rather not have to deal with. And so the serenity prayer has helped me accept the things I cannot change, given me the courage to make the changes, and take actions when it was right to do so.

It took me about 1:24 min. to write it, and post-it on the cupboard door in my bathroom.

*Yes, the first word is God. This word can take the meaning you want. It can be Boudah, Yahveh, the Spaghetti Monster in the Sky, or your subconscious mind. Whatever you want it to be. Don’t freak about it.

Do you have one like these?