Break the Rules of Society

Every day, we have to decide if we’re going to follow or break the rules society puts up for us. When we decide to follow the rules, it kind of limits our opportunity to grow. Society’s rules are often lame. Just think as an example about the health rules put out by bogus scientists paid by XYZ industries or worse, the government’s health rules. Huge industries have the massive marketing power to fool you into thinking that eating their products full of sugar and chemicals is healthy for you. You know I’m not making this up, and it’s the same lies that are perpetuated for so many other areas of lives.

Whether it be my health, money, relationship, or career, I do my own research and experimentation. There are risks involved with that because I have to treat myself as a guinea pig, but I found it’s the only way to get the results I’m after. The growth I experience from choosing my own path is amazing. Settling in for average is so boring, and by following society’s rules, that’s where I would fall.

I like to stop and think about the rules I’ve inherited from my parents, my friends, my teachers, and the collective on the internet. I question whether these rules feel purposeful, fulfilling, and meaningful to me. If not, why follow that rule?  

Fear has been a big obstacle for me to overcome. And really, when I think about fear, it always comes down to something I imagine, something my Ego is afraid of. The only way I found to get out of this kind of fear is to observe it, challenge it, and release it. 

P.S.: I’m not encouraging anyone to break the LAW. I’m talking about conventional wisdom and rules that won’t lead anyone to jail if they break them. 

Practice Overcoming Fear

It was scary to think of posting my thoughts about everything and anything that can make us into better human beings out there in the wild. I had and still have fears.

Would my English writing be understandable? Would I make ridiculous mistakes because English is my second language? Would you dismiss my views of the world because of the “job” I do? Would I be judged and mocked for my ideas?

It’s a wonderful feeling to face fear and get over it. The more I practice facing my fears, the stronger I get at overcoming them.

Turns out you guys are pretty cool. You’re great critiques, and your opinions spark new thoughts, and help me question my beliefs. I love it and that’s a lot of fun!

Thank you!

P.S.: Today is my birthday, I’m turning 43!

Fear vs Excitement

Fear was useful when our species lived in the wild… No need for an explanation here. Since we don’t have to fear wild animals anymore, our brain use fear way too often to kill our dreams. I found a way to trick my mind when I feel fear creeping around the corner.

To make a dream come true, I need to get out of your comfort zone, do something “dangerous” and different from my usual habits and patterns. The moment I start thinking too much about doing the dangerous thing, there are  signals sent to my brain telling it that it needs to protect me. That’s when fear kicks in.

When I’m afraid, I experience the same sensations as when I’m excited, and so do you. The only difference is what’s going on in my mind. This is great news  because if I can become mindful when the symptoms are overwhelming my body, I can tell my brain that I’m excited, not fearful, and use the extra energy from the excitement to propel myself, and accomplish what I need to do to make my dream come true.

You can try it too!

Make a Feint

If you have something on your mind that you want to do, dream to do, wish to do, now is the right time to do it.

I hear you. I mean, I hear your excuses in my mind. Because they’re also my excuses for not doing the things I want, dream, wish I could do.

The excuses can always be boiled down to the same obstacle. And that obstacle is fear.

You know the drill. The only way to have a full life, an extraordinary life, is to face fear by doing the things we’re afraid of doing.

Surprise your fear, make a feint, and score a goal!

What have you been putting off because you’re scared?

Running in Circles

You probably know what you want to change in your life, but maybe you’re not open to change, or you’re stuck in a loop.

You want to change, but can’t seem to accomplish what you said you would, or you don’t know how to make it happen.

Maybe you do things, but it’s not working, and you don’t know what to do differently.

You might be too afraid because you know your own limitations, or it’s impossible because you would destroy everything you’ve built so far.

You’re running in circles. If only you could take action. You don’t feel like it though. You’re too tired. You’re afraid. You can’t. Your boss won’t let you. You have bills to pay. And you have 5 or 10 more very good reasons not to.

Changing something is a lot of work, and nobody feels like doing it. And there’s the difference between someone who’s running in circles, who feels stuck, and someone who does it anyway and makes things happen.

I know. The life you created makes you feel trapped and frustrated. You want something more.

The only antidote to running in circles is action. You’re in charge, and you can do the hard work to make your desires come true. Take action when you don’t feel like it, when you worry you can’t, and when everyone says you’re crazy.

Listen to that little twinge and stop running in circles.

Doubts

It can be daunting to doubt your own thoughts and decisions, and other people’s actions and ideas. To doubt means to have feeling of uncertainty about the truth, reality, or nature of something. Even when that something is proven by facts, science, and unfaulted logic.

When you chronically doubt yourself, you create a loop of low self-confidence that leads to more self-doubt. When you lack confidence in your own decision, it’s because you are afraid of making a mistake.

A great way to combat self-doubt is to experience the very thing you’re doubting. It’s in no case a quick fix, will surely take some time and efforts, and there will be plenty of challenges along the way because doubt is perceived as some kind of safety. You’ll have to remind yourself that it is okay to make mistakes because you’ll learn from them, and grow because you’ll have survive the experience.

The more experiences you create to battle your self-doubts, the more confidence you’ll build, which will also create a loop, a positive one that is.

In short, self-doubt is another fancy word for fear, and the only way to fight fear is to have the courage to face it.