Serenity is the antonym of anxiety. It’s a state of peacefulness, where the mind and the body are untroubled. If you’ve ever experienced serenity, you know how good it feels, and I bet you’d like to get in this state much more often.
If we look at what causes anxiety most of the time, we might be able to reverse engineer it, and feel the bliss of serenity instead. When we’re anxious, it’s because we’re out of control, we’re disorganized, we’re not prepared, and we’re not taking action.
The Goal is Serenity
From my experience, I know that when I’m anxious, it’s already too late. There are techniques that can ease the anxiety– breathing, meditating, focus on the task at hand –but the goal is serenity, not to feel less anxious.
To take control of our lives, our projects, or our work, we might need to get more things on auto-pilot. That’s where habits come in handy. Good, strong habits free up you mind to let you make better decisions.
Everybody has habits. If someone says they don’t, they simply don’t realize that they have a routine. Instead of creating the habits they want for a better life, they’re letting themselves be ruled by whatever good or bad habits that would form naturally.
Getting organized is so much easier with habits. When everything is in order, and has a structure, it facilitates our lives. No more searching of your keys. No more buying stuff you already have, but have no clue where it might be hidden. No more stress because you think you’ve lost that super important report you must present in five minutes.
Being prepared for an interview, for an exam, or for a big event frees us to deal with the unexpected with all our grace. It gives us the opportunity to show our real values and character strengths. Our mind is calm, and it can deal with anything anyone throws at it.
Actions can create habits. Actions can make you feel in control. Actions are what separate successes from failures. You already know that the tiniest actions can create a giant snowball. You’ll be hard to stop once you start moving.
Have you lost your keys, your important report, and felt so anxious you started shaking from the inside? And on the contrary, have you done it so gracefully that you felt the kiss of serenity on your forehead?